“Love yourself first, and everything else falls in line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.”

Lucille Ball

Self-Love – a not-so-great relationship with me

Self Love – this was {and is to an extent} hard for me, I am my own worst critic – think of me as a mild version of Nick Krygois. I was never competing against others, I was never acknowledging or accepting of “what I had done or achieved” I was always finding fault and along with that ways to improve. Whilst improvement and learning from your actions is noble, not acknowledging the good in you, not so good.

Love yourself enough to take care of your emotional needs.

Self-love means to love yourself enough to take care of your emotional needs. It’s not selfish or narcissistic; it’s necessary if you want to be happy, healthy and whole.

Self-love is about being gentle with yourself when you make mistakes, knowing that we all make them every day. Self-love is about acknowledging what you’ve done right in each moment so that at the end of the day, you have more than one thing to feel proud of.

Self-love is about being kind and compassionate towards your mind, body and soul—even when this means saying no sometimes instead of always saying yes because “I’m just too busy.”

Self-loving people are honest with themselves about who they are today versus who they were yesterday or even years ago—and they stay true to themselves no matter how outside forces try (or fail) to change them into something else entirely.”

Self-love is not selfish.

Self-love is not selfish. It’s a natural instinct to care for yourself, especially when you are in pain or struggling with something.

Self-love is not narcissistic. It does not mean that you see yourself as perfect, that you think only about yourself all the time, or that your needs come before anyone else’s in every situation.

Self-love is not self-absorbed and self-centred; it isn’t about being selfish and putting yourself first at all times (even if sometimes it feels like that). And yes, I know how hard it can be to give up on wanting everyone around us to validate our worth and love us unconditionally—but we need to learn how important this kind of validation is!

Self-love has no conditions.

You can only love yourself unconditionally. You cannot love yourself based on external factors such as what you do and how you look. Self-love is not based on other people’s opinions or expectations of you, it is a choice that you alone have control over.

In the same way that self-love has no conditions, it also has no limits; it doesn’t matter where you are in your journey, who you are with, or how much money/power/influence someone else may have—your self-worth does not change because of any of these things!

The ability to say “No” when you need to and “Yes” when you want to.

It’s important to note that self-love is not about giving up your own needs and wants. Self-love is about making decisions for yourself. It’s about saying no when you need to and yes when you want to. You deserve the best life possible, but that doesn’t mean it has to be perfect all the time; it just means that every choice should be made with your happiness in mind as well as everyone else’s happiness.

Giving up your needs will only lead to stress, resentment, and overall unhappiness—and we all know how much more fun it is when we’re happy!

Nurturing your soul.

When you are in the process of nurturing your soul, it’s important to remember that self-love is about more than just caring for your body. You have to be conscious of how you treat yourself on all levels—spiritual, mental, and emotional.

Self-love also means nourishing the relationships in your life with a sense of openness and generosity. This can mean spending quality time with people who make you feel good about yourself, doing what you can to help someone else in need, or simply taking an interest in another person’s life without expecting anything back from them (or even knowing them).

When you practice self-love you will value yourself more than other people’s opinions.

When you practice self-love, you will value yourself more than other people’s opinions.

What does this mean? It means that you create your happiness. When you’re confident in who you are and what makes up your unique personality, then it doesn’t matter if someone else thinks something about you is negative or positive. You know what? It’s not even their business to comment on anyway! That person can think whatever they want but when it comes down to it, only YOU decide how YOU feel about yourself and the decisions that YOU make in life.

When we feel secure with ourselves, we can be more open with others and develop meaningful relationships because we aren’t worried about what they are thinking or saying behind our backs (because there isn’t anything negative being said!). By being authentic—whoever that may be—then people will appreciate us for who WE are because no one wants to deal with someone who pretends all day long just so they fit into society’s standards of “normal”.

Does this sound like you?

For some of us, it is not easy to love ourselves; whether it is by self-doubt, imposter syndrome – the list goes on. It does not have to be that way, I’m not saying that it will be easy, but it can be done. I am my own worst critic and I have learnt to accept that and harness that energy differently. I now acknowledge the good I have done and the positivity I bring.

If you want to find out more about how I can support you in working on your self-love, please do get in touch.